About Sheila and Abide Coaching

I coach the whole person instead of focusing on one area of life. In our coaching sessions we can talk about work, relationships, school or anything else that is a part of your life and makes you…you.

We are whole people, so one area of life affects another area whether we want it to or not. I help build connections and guide you through active solutions to take ownership and power of your life.

My specialties for coaching clients include adults who are neurodiverse, parents of neurodiverse or disabled children and adult adoptees. I do this through individual and group sessions. I only coach people where I have abundant life experience. 

In sessions I draw on my intuition, faith, humor, and knowledge to coach an individual or group and take the time to know each client intimately.

Part of that knowledge is rooted in Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), and the concept of the four Ss: Seen, Soothed, Safe, and Secure.

In addition, I utilize the “Mindsight lens” (openness, objectivity and observation). This is a concept I will be teaching you early on in our sessions together.

I feel lucky I get to coach people for a living. I coach because I love it, not because I need to. I love getting to know my clients and watching them blossom. Nothing brings me greater joy.

When I am not coaching, I love to read, create art, garden, watch mystery movies, hang out with my loved ones and volunteer at my church. To practice what I preach I like to live a full, happy life.

Neurodiversity

 

Neurodiversity has been part of my life since the beginning. My brain has different wiring. I am dyslexic and have dyspraxia. Having a neurodiverse brain in a world built for neurotypical people can be a great blessing but it can also be challenging. I was lucky to figure out what worked for me and what didn’t, which allowed me to create a life that works for me. I am passionate about making life work for NDs who may be struggling in a society that is not set up for them.  

Parents of Neurodivergent or Disabled Children

 

Children are a blessing but raising them is the hardest job there is. I have three wonderful adult children. My daughter, Alexis, has spina bifida. My daughter, Paige, has AuDHD. And my son, Jack, has ADHD. These labels aren’t the most interesting facts about my kids, but these labels did make parenting challenging. They all manage their challenges differently but lead with their strengths. In addition, my husband and I parented them differently as well because they are different people with different needs. I firmly believe no one knows a kid like their parent – no matter the job title or degrees someone else may have.  My hope in coaching parents is to educate them about NDs where needed and empower them to follow their intuition to support their children. 

Adult Adoptees

 

I was adopted. My (adoptive) parents were wonderful. I have always known that I was adopted but I wasn’t encouraged to ask questions or at least that was my impression. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t think about it or wasn’t curious. By the time reached out, I was too late– my birth mother, birth father and one bio-brother had already passed away. I am still looking for another brother. I have gone through all the emotions – grief, anger, shame, happiness, wonder, etc. And still do sometimes.  My faith has been a huge part of my healing. If you are an adoptee too, I am happy to answer questions or tell my whole story. But my story isn’t yours and they are all different stories. In coaching, we will be focused solely on your story and what is right for you.