It has been a bit since I last wrote a blog, I apologize for that. I have been busy. I know that sounds like an excuse. It partly is and isn’t. Since my last blog in January, I have prepared a house to go on the market, put it on the market, sold it, house hunted, bought a new home, packed up, and moved across the country from Colorado to North Carolina. Also, during that time, my daughter got married, and my son graduated from college—all good things. I could have written a blog, but I wanted to write this blog, so I needed to wait until my new website was ready to launch.
Welcome to my rebranded website! What made me rebrand? You may have heard the phrase, “If you have met someone with Autism, ADHD, or who is neurodiverse, then you have met one person with Autism, ADHD, or who is neurodiverse.” This phrase is accurate; my clients are different from each other except in one way. There is something about themselves that they aren’t accepting as part of them.
Many of my clients are particular about wording. Words have power. The right words can motivate, soothe, uplift, and inspire. Abide means to dwell/remain in one place. But it also means to endure/put up with, to wait patiently for. Those are hard things to do. So why would I choose that name for coaching business when most people come to coaching looking for a change?
What makes it essential to “remain in one place, to endure or to wait patiently for?” For one thing, we can’t get away from ourselves and remain mentally healthy. Also, most of the time, the wondrous, gifted, and delightful parts of us are worth accepting the challenging, messy, and frustrating parts—the latter parts become less so when we receive them and stop trying to fight them.
We should strive to improve. I am all for self-improvement, but not when the cost is becoming distraught, singularly focused, or overly self-critical about more biological than willful characteristics. By accepting all of who we are and working with our challenges instead of them, we can become the person we are supposed to be.
We can’t know, serve, or give to others (or ourselves) without knowing and accepting all parts of ourselves. By abiding in one place (ourselves), we can learn who we are:
- Internally – spiritually, intellectually, emotionally
- In relationships with colleagues, romantic partners, friends, family members
- In communities – at work, in our neighborhood, at our church, in volunteer efforts
Let’s abide together! I have expanded my offerings; please explore my new site.